2021 is here and 2020 was horrible. In December of 2019, I started working to create a blog. The core focus was to learn more about myself and life issues that relate to so many of us.
This blog provided me with an opportunity to not only do that but also share it with others. I had only one major goal from this website. Post one blog for every week of the year 2020.
I failed, as of this moment, there are 45 blogs on the website instead of a possible 52. Am I sad about it? Not at all 🙂
Not only did I cover diverse topics, but I also created articles that were really comprehensive and nuanced. Some of my blogs go even past the 4000-word mark while I kept trying to keep them short. 😛
Other than that I did face a few unforeseen issues nearing the end of the year. With my family testing positive for covid, and a few other projects that I was working on during the end of 2020, these last few months were a complete rollercoaster.
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Behavior change is hard, it takes a lot of time and consistent effort to change behaviors but it can be done. And the best part is, it doesn’t need you to be really motivated or highly disciplined to do it.
Behavior in psychology is defined as an organism’s activities in response to external or internal stimuli.
In simple terms, behavior consists of the actions that living organisms use to adjust in their respective environments.
This definition came from Lewin’s equation, B = ∫(P, E) which states that your behavior is a function of you, (P) including your history, personality, and motivation and your (E), i.e. your environment including your physical as well as your social surroundings.
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What is anger management
Anger management techniques are essential if we wish to learn how to manage anger.
Unlike what many people believe, anger is a natural emotion that we use to express our grief.
The grief that we feel whenever we feel powerless or when life gives us something we did not expect.
It is something we all feel and there is nothing wrong about it. What is important is how we manage that anger.
Failing to manage anger might not only hamper your close relationships but also lead to several health issues.
Sustained feelings of anger turn to resentment, which can cause anxiety and depression.
This leads to health problems like headaches, high blood pressure; digestive issues even skin diseases, and heart problems.
Apart from damage to your health and your close relationships, anger can push you in a life of violent behaviour, abuse or crime.
This can lead to loss of self-esteem and sustained mental health problems.
Thus, it is important that we understand our anger and learn how to manage it properly.
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What are Limiting beliefs
Limiting beliefs are exactly what they sound like. They are the perceptions we have accepted in our minds as truths.
Are they truths? Well sometimes, they are and sometimes they are not.
Whenever you experience anything in life, your brain goes to the vast collection of conclusions it has accepted over the years and provides you with a bunch of probabilities.
Therefore, in any circumstance you face, your brain will provide you with its best guess.
That best guess is just that, a guess. Moreover, we are acting on those guesses more often than we realise.
According to Dr. Fred Luskin of Stanford University, a human has almost 60,000 thoughts each day and 90% of those thoughts are repetitive.
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Bounce back from failure
To bounce back from adversity is essential. At this moment when the entire world is having a tough time, it is crucial that we not only survive somehow but that we come back stronger.
One true fundamental truth of the universe is change, the only absolute.
Accepting this not only can make us resilient when good times turn sour but also give us the courage to keep moving when we are dealing with failure.
All the above lines are perfectly logical. We all understand them at some level and yet it is so difficult to keep going.
We realize that failure is temporary and still it is hard to stay resilient. How to we bounce back from failure and adversity? Let us find out
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“The true measure of success is how many times you can bounce back from failure.”– Stephen Richards
Learn a new skill
It gets boring when you try to learn a new skill. We all have a busy schedule and hope to be successful.
Maybe one day, when we do become successful, we will have enough time.
Then perhaps we will start working on all those things we always wanted to do.
You really want to learn how to play that musical instrument but who has the time to learn it. It will take so much effort and focus.
If things are going well, there is so much money to make that you cannot really waste this opportunity.
If things are bad, it is so important to do everything you can now so that you can make ends meet.
Also, learning a new skill takes 10,000 hours. Can you really learn any challenging new skills ever in your life? Is it just a pipe dream?
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What is Pareto’s principle?
Simply put Pareto’s principle (also called the 80-20 rule) says that 80 % of the results come from 20% of the causes (more or less).
Now, this is not always accurate. Sometimes it is 70-30 or sometimes a very small no can give a big result.
However, the gist of the rule states that a minority of the causes lead to the majority of the results.
Conversely, the majority of the causes do not contribute much to the result. It means that 80% of the work you put in is only leading to 20% results.
Businesses have been using this in optimizations of inventory and operations for a long time.
You can, however, apply this principle to almost everything.
How can we apply Pareto’s principle effectively in our lives? Well, let’s find out.
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Resist temptations, such an arduous task. It is a problem that we all face. The information age has only made things worse.
We all give in to temptations, some more than others. We do this despite our knowledge of the harm they can bring us. Moreover, we also judge others that give in to them.
Not only do we repeatedly fail to resist temptations, we expect others to be principled when dealing with them.
This slight hypocrisy is very common in most people and you can see it especially well in people that never fulfill their commitments and yet whine about politicians not fulfilling their promises.
If we cannot resist the temptations we have right now, how can we hope to do better once we do have more power and consequently more access to self-indulgence?
Just giving in to temptations can destroy entire lives and careers of people. This is why we must know how to resist temptations, especially if we want to move upwards in life.
“Because power corrupts, society’s demands for moral authority and character increase as the importance of the position increases.”―John Adams
The power that comes with rising up only magnifies temptations. As a famous quote of John Dalberg-Acton goes-
“Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.―John Dalberg-Acton
Great men are almost always bad men, even when they exercise influence and not authority, still more when you superadd the tendency or the certainty of corruption by authority.”
Is it then possible to resist temptations? Can we resist temptations not only in the limited scope in which we operate, but even if we do gain power and prestige?
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Work when you don’t feel like it?
To work when you don’t feel like it is hard. For example, right now I really do not want to write this blog.
That is exactly why I am writing it. I have had this problem for a long time where I just delay a task because I didn’t really want to put in the work at that time.
There have been days where I have just given up on work. I just cannot seem to get myself to work and so I say to myself-
“Let it be. We will just bounce back tomorrow.”
Now, I am pretty good and bouncing back, and, I am able to do cover-up for that work in time. However, that still leaves a basic question.
How can we bring ourselves to work when we don’t feel like it?
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